Subtle Roller-Coaster of Stylistic Values

I just explained my taste to a prospective sub as follows:

I expect subs to be incredibly proactive and productive, to have their own agendas and report on their progress. EG, if you're going to college, I want to know that you're putting all of your effort into success. If you're a business man, I want to know that you're making and meeting goals. If you're an artist, I expect you to make and keep a schedule, orchestrate a career of some sort out of it, etc.

I can go meta in setting up a structure and work you like a horse, I can hurt you to clear your mind and direct you through a strict regimen. I also apply this to social phobias and insecurities. I forge in fire; to the recreational weekenders I don't seem to do much, because I prefer to take subtle control. However, I don't seek to create service zombies, so the majority of my regimen includes empowerment of my subs.

I can tease and direct release; though it's not an erotic experience for me, it amuses me. I tend to giggle when causing pain (I gave one of my boyfriends a massage for an epic knot in his shoulder the other day. He said he "saw god." I was laughing the whole time. And we're relatively vanilla.)
I enjoy giving CBT, tease and denial / delay, figging, nipple torture, attention deprivation. I can give a good spanking, but my taste is more cerebral than that. I would rather do deliberate, slow sadism with eye contact than stare at your reddening ass for fourty minutes.

I also like to delegate practical aspects so that I'm free to focus my attention on the people at hand.

Ultimately, I'm very lifestylish about everything. I don't have hobbies as much as stylistic values applied to every aspect of my life. At the same time, I have a strong taste for boundaries in general.

I'm a very subtle roller-coaster. Even completely platonic, vanilla friends often find that I have a transformational effect on their lives.

I even get a twinge of contempt when the term "play" is used to sweepingly describe what I do, because much of the time, my passion is in very deliberate, responsibility-ladened interactions: fulfilling and enjoyable, but not play at all.

I'm certainly not a game.

I can do the more mild community scene thing with people I can trust to get me there and back safely, but still seek a general friendship / rapport outside of fetish regardless. If I can't hold a normal conversation over coffee with you, I don't want to put clamps on your testicles. Make sense?